Have You Been Feeling Stuck?
Having the same argument over and over again
Watching conversations quickly turn into fights
Feeling constantly disconnected from each other
Feeling unheard, misunderstood, or alone
Carrying resentment that won't go away
Feeling like nothing you do is ever enough
Feeling exhausted by the same painful patterns
Hoping to Create Real Change?
Feel deeply connected and supported
Experience greater emotional safety and security
Listen with empathy and understanding
Feel valued, appreciated, and loved
Restore trust after hurt or betrayal
Communicate with greater openness and honesty
Create a stronger future together
How I Approach Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a core approach in my counselling work. It is an evidence-based approach that is used to help couples, families, and individuals.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) is a type of therapy based on attachment science. It helps couples understand and change negative patterns in their relationship so they can build stronger, closer relationship bonds.
EFCT supports couples through three main stages:
- Stage 1: Understanding the Cycle
You and your partner will learn to recognize and de-escalate the negative patterns that cause conflict and emotional distance.
- Stage 2: Building Connection
You'll explore your deeper struggles and needs together, and learn how to share them in a way that helps you feel more emotionally connected and secure with each other.
- Stage 3: Strengthening the Relationship
In this stage, you'll work on finding new ways to solve problems, build trust, and maintain healthy patterns of closeness and support.
EFCT starts with an assessment phase, which includes an initial session with both partners together, followed by one individual session with each partner.
Couples counselling can help with:
- Improving communication
- Resolving conflict
- Increasing emotional understanding and empathy
- Healing relationship injuries
- Recovery from infidelity
- Strengthening relationship bonds
- Deepening trust, intimacy, and connection
- Enhancing a sense of safety and security in the relationship
An Introduction to EFT for Couples from EFT Founder Dr. Sue Johnson
Frequently Asked Questions About Couples Counselling
Please reach me at dan@dancoburncounselling.com if you cannot find an answer to your question.
Couples counselling can help when you feel stuck in recurring conflicts, disconnected from each other, or unsure how to move forward. You don't have to be on the verge of separation to benefit from therapy. Many couples seek support when they want to improve communication, deepen their connection, or strengthen their relationship.
Ideally, both partners are willing to participate and explore the relationship together. However, it is common for one partner to be more hesitant at first. Couples counselling can still be helpful when one person is unsure, as therapy creates a space to better understand each person's experience and what is happening in the relationship.
The first session is an opportunity for us to understand your relationship, what brings you to counselling, and the patterns you feel stuck in. We will explore your concerns, your goals, and begin identifying the cycle that is creating disconnection or conflict.
With Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), the initial assessment typically includes a session together followed by individual sessions with each partner.
Yes. Many couples seek counselling because they feel trapped in the same arguments over and over again. Couples therapy can help you understand the cycle you are caught in, slow down reactive patterns, and learn new ways of reaching and responding to each other with greater love and understanding.
Yes. Relationship injuries such as infidelity can deeply impact trust and emotional security. Couples counselling can provide a space to process the hurt, understand what happened, and begin rebuilding safety, trust, and connection when both partners are committed to the process.
Yes. Couples counselling is not only for couples who want to stay together. Therapy can help couples gain clarity, communicate more effectively, reduce conflict, and make thoughtful decisions about the future of their relationship.
The length of therapy depends on your goals, the challenges you are facing, and the patterns within your relationship. Some couples seek support for a specific issue, while others choose longer-term work to create deeper and more lasting change.
Many extended health benefit plans cover counselling or psychotherapy services provided by a Registered Social Worker (RSW). Coverage varies between plans, so it is best to check directly with your insurance provider.
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