Couples Counselling & Therapy
Wired for Love
As human beings, we are naturally wired for love and connection. Our closest relationships have a powerful impact on us. When these relationships are strong and supportive, they help us grow and contribute to our overall wellbeing. But when they’re strained or disconnected, they can be the source of some of our most painful emotional struggles.
Loving Relationships are the Cornerstone of Wellbeing
Extensive research from attachment science shows that we are naturally social and built for connection. Strong, healthy relationships aren’t just helpful—they’re essential for us to thrive throughout our entire lives. As Dr. Sue Johnson puts it, “all the research agrees that a stable, loving relationship is the absolute cornerstone of human happiness and general wellbeing.”
Negative Cycles of Disconnection
Yet unfortunately, we can get caught in patterns of disconnection—where misunderstandings, hurt, and frustration repeat in a loop. Many of us know what it's like to be stuck in these painful cycles. My work is focused on helping couples recognize these patterns and find new ways to connect, so they can build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.
About Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a core approach in my counselling work. It is an evidence-based approach that is used to help couples, families, and individuals.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) is a type of therapy based on attachment science. It helps couples understand and change negative patterns in their relationship so they can build stronger, closer relationship bonds.
EFCT supports couples through three main stages:
- Stage 1: Understanding the Cycle
You and your partner will learn to recognize and de-escalate the negative patterns that cause conflict and emotional distance.
- Stage 2: Building Connection
You'll explore your deeper struggles and needs together, and learn how to share them in a way that helps you feel more emotionally connected and secure with each other.
- Stage 3: Strengthening the Relationship
In this stage, you'll work on finding new ways to solve problems, build trust, and maintain healthy patterns of closeness and support.
EFCT starts with an assessment phase, which includes an initial session with both partners together, followed by one individual session with each partner.
Couples counselling may help with:
- Improving communication
- Resolving conflict
- Increasing emotional understanding and empathy
- Healing relationship injuries
- Recovery from infidelity
- Strengthening relationship bonds
- Deepening trust, intimacy, and connection
- Enhancing a sense of safety and security in the relationship
An Introduction to EFT for Couples from EFT Founder Dr. Sue Johnson
How Being In Love Affects Your Brain with Dr. Sue Johnson
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