Men's Counselling & Therapy

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a core approach in my counselling practice. EFT is an evidence-based approach that helps people understand and work through emotional and relationship issues. It’s effective for individuals, couples, and families.

EFT can be especially helpful for men who want to:

• Face emotional or relationship challenges and move past what’s holding them back
• Understand how unhelpful coping patterns may be keeping them stuck
• Build strengths—psychological, social, and moral
• Reflect on past relationships and what they taught about how to be a man and how to deal with mental health issues
• Expand their abilities to relate to themselves and others 

You can learn more about Emotionally Focused Therapy for individuals here.

Some of the hardest challenges we face are in our minds and relationships. These include mental struggles, emotional battles, conflicts in our relationships, and tough moral decisions.

Facing these challenges can feel uncomfortable, but it is very important and worthwhile. Working through them helps us grow stronger—mentally, socially, and morally. As we build these inner strengths, we become better able to take positive actions that improve our wellbeing and the wellbeing of those around us.

Our mental health depends a lot on how we handle our emotions. Everyone experiences basic emotions like fear, anger, sadness, shame, joy, excitement, and sexual excitement. We can’t choose to have these feelings—they are part of being human. What we can choose is how we respond to them.

Emotions are powerful. When they overwhelm us, they can lead to harmful behaviours or dark places in our minds. Because of this, many people learn to ignore or avoid their emotions. But avoiding emotions doesn’t make them disappear. In fact, the more we try to push them away, the more control they have over us—often building up inside until they explode in unhealthy ways.

The key to our growth is to build emotional strength. This means facing your emotions honestly, accepting them as part of who you are, and learning how to understand and manage them effectively. Doing this supports your mental health and leads to personal growth, stronger relationships, and a healthier life.

• Learning to control impulses and manage strong emotions without shutting down or numbing feelings
• Understanding and overcoming habits of avoiding or restricting emotions
• Breaking free from social isolation by building trust and opening up to others
• Creating safe and close emotional bonds with trusted family and friends
• Handling conflicts and disagreements in ways that foster mutual respect and understanding
• Accepting emotions and communicating in ways that are honest and real 
• Developing compassion and acceptance for themselves and others
• Expressing anger and assertiveness in healthy ways instead of uncontrolled aggression or passive suppression
• Growing a balanced sense of pride, humility, and self-esteem
• Building mental resilience, toughness, and perseverance to face life’s challenges
• Clarifying personal values and living with purpose and integrity
• Defining a clear vision based on moral values and aligning actions with these higher goals
• Finding meaning by connecting with something bigger than themselves